Does He Love You?
Men and women are very different creatures indeed! One of the extreme distinctions between the two genders is that way that they each show love. Many an argument between the two stem from this very issue, most often instigated by the women who want to be shown love the way that they show it. Before you assume that your man simply doesn't love you consider the fact that the two of you speak very different love languages. Where you are more apt to be verbal with your affections, he is going to be more proficient at the "doing" aspect of love. Does your man provide for you and your children, if applicable?
This is an act of love on his part, especially on days that he'd rather be anywhere but work. A man who doesn't have anyone but himself to worry about could just take the day off, call in sick and relax the day away. This is something to consider the next time you wonder if he really loves you. It is love that motivates the tired man, the sick man, or the man who just plain wants a day off to head to the office once again so that he can bring you that paycheck at the end of the month and be sure you have your met.
If your man keeps things in proper working condition around your house or in your vehicle, it is a sign that he loves you. He doesn't want you to live in a home that's falling down around you. He doesn't want you to drive a vehicle that can't be depended on to get you where you need to go and home again. When he's under the hood, cussing up a storm, hear those words saying that he cares about your safety. When he's muttering under his breath from beneath the sink fixing that leak, hear those mutters become "I love yous".
Have you felt that gentle pat on your bottom as he walks by? Have you seen his eyes light up when you enter a room? Have you felt his embrace in the night? Even as he sleeps, he is loving you. It is an amazing feeling for you, the woman, when you actually understand that.
No more will you complain about that heavy arm being thrown over you because you'll understand his language telling you of his love and desire to protect you and keep you close to him. When he does something extra that normally falls on your shoulders, it is his way of showing you that he loves you. Has he ever done the dinner dishes, or better yet, made the dinner?
Has he folded the laundry or made the bed in the morning? Have you ever noticed that he has an irresistable urge to tell you all about it? Often, we assume that this is because he wants us to praise him for the task he's accomplished, but sometimes he simply wants you to know so that you hear his "I love you" through these actions. Men definitely, without any question, speak a language that women don't always understand. Their "words" are their actions and haven't we all heard that "actions speak louder than words"?
When he does something for you, with no regard to himself, try to hear what he isn't saying and know that he is showing all the signs of a man who loves you.