After sex, women prefer talking, kissing, cuddling and talking about the relationship, while men prefer to smoke, eat or drink, U.S. researchers say.
Study author Susan Hughes, associate professor of psychology at Albright College in Reading, Pa., says most research on sex focuses on what leads to sex, but a number of elements of reproduction happen after sexual intercourse, including: bonding, future relationship intentions and possible continued sexual activities, sperm retention and competition, mate guarding and the possibility of fertilization.
Hughes says the study, to appear in the upcoming issue of The Journal of Sex Research, involved 170 men and women who completed a questionnaire.
The study found women were more likely than men to initiate and place greater importance on behaviors linked to intimacy and bonding with both long and short-term partners. Men, on the other hand, were more likely to engage in extrinsically rewarding tasks such as smoking, asking for a favor or behaviors that increased the odds of having sex again.
Men also initiate having more sex. Both men and women agree on the importance of saying "I love you" to a long-term partner after sex, Hughes says.
Do You know that kissing can have beneficial effects on your health? You can find out more about it below. If you want to get a kiss, you have to give it first. That’s the system of reciprocity. In most countries around the world, it’s usually not common to kiss people at random, so don’t run off on a stranger-kissing spree after reading this article! What’s a kiss?
Here’s a nice definitions for you: “A kiss is a pleasant and unobtrusive message that two united heads are better than one lonely head.” A kiss reveals many hidden things. If you still believe that a kiss is equal to a polite handshake, you may think differently after reading the findings of a study conducted in Russia.
They give concrete evidence that kissing has beneficial effects on your health, for instance:
1. Kissing maintains the balance of the cardiovascular system and lowers high blood pressure and cholesterol.
2. Kissing stimulates more than 30 facial muscles responsible for smooth skin and increases the blood flow to the facial skin.
3. You can burn 12 calories if kissing lasts for 5 seconds.
4. In connection with blood pressure: kissing prevents the production of the stress hormone, glucocorticoid, which is the culprit of high blood pressure, weak muscles and insomnia.
5. Kissing is a natural remedy for certain microbes because saliva attacks them. How? Saliva contains bacteria common to 80 % of people, while 20 % of people have a unique composition.
By exchanging saliva, you stimulate your immune system to adapt its response to the bacteria you’re exposed to. The result is the production of antibodies that protects you against the microbes. This process is called cross-immunotherapy.
6. By kissing a person, your brain can analyze how compatible you’re with this person. Has it ever occurred that you were more certain about what you liked or disliked about the person only after you kissed him/her? Hmm...
7. Last but not least: it’s a cure for hiccups too.
Men and women are very different creatures indeed! One of the extreme distinctions between the two genders is that way that they each show love. Many an argument between the two stem from this very issue, most often instigated by the women who want to be shown love the way that they show it. Before you assume that your man simply doesn't love you consider the fact that the two of you speak very different love languages. Where you are more apt to be verbal with your affections, he is going to be more proficient at the "doing" aspect of love. Does your man provide for you and your children, if applicable?
This is an act of love on his part, especially on days that he'd rather be anywhere but work. A man who doesn't have anyone but himself to worry about could just take the day off, call in sick and relax the day away. This is something to consider the next time you wonder if he really loves you. It is love that motivates the tired man, the sick man, or the man who just plain wants a day off to head to the office once again so that he can bring you that paycheck at the end of the month and be sure you have your met.
If your man keeps things in proper working condition around your house or in your vehicle, it is a sign that he loves you. He doesn't want you to live in a home that's falling down around you. He doesn't want you to drive a vehicle that can't be depended on to get you where you need to go and home again. When he's under the hood, cussing up a storm, hear those words saying that he cares about your safety. When he's muttering under his breath from beneath the sink fixing that leak, hear those mutters become "I love yous".
Have you felt that gentle pat on your bottom as he walks by? Have you seen his eyes light up when you enter a room? Have you felt his embrace in the night? Even as he sleeps, he is loving you. It is an amazing feeling for you, the woman, when you actually understand that.
No more will you complain about that heavy arm being thrown over you because you'll understand his language telling you of his love and desire to protect you and keep you close to him. When he does something extra that normally falls on your shoulders, it is his way of showing you that he loves you. Has he ever done the dinner dishes, or better yet, made the dinner?
Has he folded the laundry or made the bed in the morning? Have you ever noticed that he has an irresistable urge to tell you all about it? Often, we assume that this is because he wants us to praise him for the task he's accomplished, but sometimes he simply wants you to know so that you hear his "I love you" through these actions. Men definitely, without any question, speak a language that women don't always understand. Their "words" are their actions and haven't we all heard that "actions speak louder than words"?
When he does something for you, with no regard to himself, try to hear what he isn't saying and know that he is showing all the signs of a man who loves you.