15/09/2010

Sex Fantasies

1263402208_top10-female-sex-fantasies_10.jpgIt might as well be a dangerous trap! Reportedly, as singer Kavitha Krishnamurthy's domestic aid accuses her violinist husband, L Subramaniam of rape, the debate of the moment is, can a maid be sexy enough for a man in power to jeopordise everything for a moment of fun.

Maybe not. While the case is still being investigated by the Bangalore police as only a day ago the famed musician had filed a complaint against the maid for stealing money from his home, we are grimly reminded of the year-old maid rape case actor Shiney Ahuja was accused of sometime back.

For the repressed Indian male, a maid can be an inviting prospect... "The image is of a harmless woman, who men feel like overpowering. It's like unleashing their beastly side which they know will not be tolerated by their wives or girlfriends. And, if you observe a maid at work, with ample cleavage on display as she bends to do her work, a man can get enticed," says relationship expert Rajinder Bajwa.

Sociologist Reeta Brara believes that getting physically attracted to the domestic help is as old as time. "We still have a feudal mindset where a person working as domestic labour is treated as downtrodden, and is conveniently made to stretch her service by extending sexual favours to her lord," says she.

"A maid's swaying behind as she works is the first sexy thing most Indian men encounter within the home. Men can easily convince themselves that the motion is deliberate," says an expert.

But what happens to relationships after a woman realises her man's newfound fantasy? Most of them never see the light of day. Actress Pooja Bedi, who ousted then boyfriend Aditya Panscholi, says, "When I got to know that he had consensual sex with my maid, I was horrified. I just couldn't see any sense in it. But I knew that I couldn't tolerate infidelity. There is nothing more terrible. I immediately dumped him."

Adds line producer Samridhi Katyal, "If I ever found out my man's sexual inclination towards a maid, it would make me sick. But honestly, I have seen women around me carefully hiring their maids, because whether they admit it or not there is some anxiety associated with having a sexy maid roaming around your house. It makes one insecure."

In the past, many Hollywood stars have also been accused of sharing a 'special bond' with their housemaids. Take the case of Uma Thurman's husband Ethan Hawke who divorced the actress to be with their nanny. Actor Jude Law cheated on fiancé Sienna Miller by having an affair with the family's nanny. He reasoned it out by saying that he didn't like Sienna's partying ways. Even Hollywood's hottest couple could not stay unaffected by the nanny brigade. Angelina Jolie fired their kids' nanny because she caught actor Brad Pitt getting too close for comfort.

But what is it about maids that make even the most rich and powerful man weak in the knees? Mulls Brara, "For men, sexual encounters have a charm of their own as it is impulsive and done on a sly. He can get a call girl if he so wishes but that would make it premeditated, and not spur of the moment. However, I wouldn't say there is a set pattern to this."

In a much talked about episode of Desperate Housewives, Lynette fired her dream nanny just because her husband found her attractive. The movie No Entry had a similar scene where Lara Dutta, who plays an obsessed wife, fires her domestic help since she dresses provocatively and looks attractive.

A recent survey also revealed that men feel more attracted to average-looking women than sexy toned bodies. There's a nanny obsession online too. "The fact that there exists such content online proves that maids are considered an object of fantasy. It may also make a man feel that it's okay to be attracted to a domestic help," says PR manager Anand Mahesh.

"Men usually don't feel attracted to a maid because of her looks or charm. It could be that in a fast-paced lifestyle, a maid is someone who comes across as a woman who is non-threatening unlike other women surrounding the man," reasons psychologist Sandeep Vohra.

He adds, "Also, the fact that a domestic maid never raises her voice or snaps makes a man feel more in control." Often, it's just a simple question of availability. So, while these bonds are sure to court controversy, it's time we faced the truth that's stared at us for decades!

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